A: The general method is illustrated by the following story:

Once upon a time there was a lion cub who got separated from his parents. He looked everywhere for them but could not find them. As his fruitless search and his resulting despair continued day after day, the image in his mind of the parents he was looking for became more and more vague.

Eventually he came across some wild sheep in a meadow. He asked the biggest sheep, "Are you my father? I've been looking for so long!" The sheep took pity on the little one and said to him, "You can stay here with us. We'll teach you how to be a good sheep."

So the lion cub learned how to eat grass (but it gave him stomach aches). He tied up his tail in a knot. He stood around with the other sheep all day, and he learned to talk like his friends. But it came out with a little roar on the end, like "BAAARRR". Years passed.

One day the father lion appeared at the edge of the meadow. He was surprised to see a lion cub among the sheep. The sheep saw the lion and they all cried out, "It's a lion! Run for your life!" The cub ran too, but he didn't run as fast as the sheep did. Having searched for his father so long, now he was the one who was found. The lion easily caught up to him.

The lion said, "I don't care what you've learned and what you've forgotten, you're still a lion." "Please don't eat me, Mr. Lion!" the cub repeated, still afraid and unconvinced.

The lion picked up the cub by the back of the neck and carried him to the lake. "Look there in the lake. What do you see?" the lion asked. The cub looked in the water and saw his own reflection and the reflection of the lion. Then the astonished cub said, "I'm a lion, like you!"

In this story, the lake is the heart. We recognize the one who is seen in the heart. All that we admire and fear in others is a reflection of our self. When we are found by that which we sought, we are changed forever because our self-concept is changed.

To find your self you need to find another person who recognizes the self within you. When your self is reflected back from that person's heart, you can recognize it and see yourself as you are seen.

This is only the beginning of learning to be a lion, but it's a vital step to believe that you have an inheritence that makes it possible for you to be what you wish to become.